An excellent and practical post for parents.
It is not your fault!
There was a bullying case in my children’s school. Although the school showed a very professional approach, it made me think! How would I react when my child would be involved in bullying? That’s when I started to read through the Internet. And I can tell you that the Internet is full of information on bullying to the point of being overwhelming. Knowing that there is no ‘one size fits all’ solution I try to share my internet-research in a nutshell, focusing on the part of being bullied.
How to tell if your child is bullied?
In general, any behavior out of the normal should be looked at to find out why. Be aware if your child is:
- Being more quiet than normal
- Has difficulty sleeping and has frequent nightmares
- Has grades going down
- Is obsessed about social networking and checking text messages.
Try…
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😦 My boyfriends brother is being bullied. The teachers want to wash their hands clean of it. How sick is that?
UNACCEPTABLE. Good thing I am not a teacher.
You would probably strangle the other teacher. He’s such a Dumb ass
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Actually, he should contact Professor Tony Volk to see if anything can be done. Fire me an email if you want Prof. V’s email address. Can’t promise any results.
What can this individual do? Is he going to contact the board directly?
I’d have to email him. I read about him as an academic with some expertise or interest in the field of bullying, so I contacted him to mention that my gender narcissism thesis offers a theoretical explanation for male and female bullying patterns.
He might be dialled into anti-bullying initiatives, or he may know whom to contact in the school system to force the school to address this.
Or he may be of no use. It doesn’t hurt to ask.
Thank you! I’ll email you shortly 🙂
Always here, villainous navigator at the ready. }:-)>
Thank you for reblogging, Michael!
And sorry Jenna to hear! It is so much harder to deal with it if the school is enabling it! Hope you find help.
You’re welcome. It was an excellent post on the subject. Besides a general interest, I am proposing in my book that gender narcissism provides a rational explanation as to the underlying cause of bullying.
Aww! Thank you again 🙂
Actually, I might not understand what you mean with ‘gender narcissism’. There is bullying in all-boys-school and ‘all-girls-schools’ as well. Or am I missing some information here?
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reply will come later this afternoon / this evening Ottawa time. Have to head out. cheers.
My ex-wife of 19 years has expert-confirmed narcissistic personality traits. IMO, these correspond to “covert” narcissism, which only exists in academic papers so far as I can determine.
In my book, I propose that covert narcissism is in fact the feminine manifestation of narcissism. That is, narcissism has differing gender manifestations. Narcissistic projection and mirroring, I argue, provide a plausible explanation for bullying. Gender narcissism explains the differences in typical male and female bullying patterns.
I also argue that covert narcissism provides a very lucid theoretical explanation for Munchausen By Proxy. If proven true, this would be an exciting development.
In my planned sequel, I will develop a unified construct of gender narcissism. The results of this construct are truly stunning in terms of explanatory powers.
Ufff! Some complicated but very interesting thinking you are doing here. So is the ‘planned sequel’ the ‘book’ you mention at the beginning or are these two different ones, like one fiction and one fact? I do think there could be more than one explanation why people bully but yours is an interesting one to look at. Thanks for clarifying 🙂
The two books are, in fact, a single coherent work. At 94,000 words for the first book, I broke the work in two at a natural pause. While containing the sophisticated concepts, to use your term, I wrote and am writing for the average reader. I didn’t want language constructs to impede conceptual understanding. Responses from my test readers, including one Professor of English (smart, smart lady) suggests that I have been successful in this regard.
I am using my outrageous experience in Canada’s matriarchal/feminist divorce system as a narrative by which to introduce these concepts. It’s a morbid, scandalous, yet fascinating journey of discovery. In term of the narrative, the first book stops at the point where my three children are seriously alienated from me, and I have just fought off a malicious feminist child “protection” action, which in fact was purely malicious and (I argue) manifestly criminal in nature. This book includes the basics of the gender narcissism concept.
The second book is magnificent in ambition. The narrative takes us through my divorce experience, which continues with its injustices after five long years. I take the basic concept of gender narcissism, and develop the unified construct of gender narcissism. The explanatory powers of this simple device are remarkable. Occam’s razor on intellectual steroids. I am guardedly confident, for example, that it is the means by which I can explain the “Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire” (E. Gibbon), and coherently argue that we are in the midst of a similar long term process of social decay.
Time will tell whether or not my thesis is correct. However, it is compelling enough to drive me to publish a pair of books that are certainly not trivial in terms of scope or effort.
Very interesting writing journey! Thanks for sharing! I have already seen that there is a new post about submitting your book! This looks like a really nice follow up to our conversation here. So I think I will hop over to the new post 🙂