About Me

I am a 3rd generation navigator who lives in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. I have neither seen nor heard from the daughter I love in over five years. Had it not been for over $150,000 and four years of unrelenting effort, the same would have happened to my two sons.

My children and I were and remain victims of a vicious form of child abuse known as parental alienation. It is when one parent cult programs a child to reject the other parent, Some experts consider it at least as harmful to kids as is sexual abuse, and other even more so.

I am scarred, older, wiser, and hardened by my experience. I salvaged relationships with my two sons, but lost my daughter. I’ve had friends and colleagues who were dealing with alienation tell me they greatly appreciated learning from my experience.

Sadly, the system – social workers, lawyers, courts and judges, government departments – all exist to thwart you from protecting your children. There are exceptions, but that doesn’t change the rule. All those who should be helping you do the exact opposite.

I learned the hard way; it was emotionally brutal, and it still hurts. Yet it was worth every ounce of pain.

To protect my kids’ identity and not run afoul of something called The Child and Family Services Act, I have to blog and write under a pseudonym. Hence, here I am “Michael M. McConaughey.” In real life, I have a slightly different name.

This blog, as the name implies, is a reflection of life, and thus covers a variety of topics. It is also the home to my forthcoming book The Mirror, Book One – Welcome to the Evil Sisterhood. While I have come to terms with what was done to the kids and me, and have let go of anger and bitterness, I will not rest until the Matriarchy is brought down.

213 Responses to “About Me”

  1. doncharisma January 2, 2014 at 11:54 pm #

    Dude, I read your interview on suzjones.wordpress.com.

    You’ll have to forgive me, I seem quite smart, but I’m really a very slow reader and writer, the charisma is just a cover for a brain that works slowly, deep thinker is my excuse 🙂

    I’ve taken time to check you out a bit more, and whilst I’m not interested in sharing my own personal life at this point, I’m 100% with you on what you’re doing. All I will say is that men do often receive a thoroughly rotten deal, and this kind of bad behaviour continues as if it’s normal “right” behaviour. It’s establishment approved.

    Margaret Thatcher, our British “Iron Lady” had this to say – “The battle for women’s rights has been largely won.”

    K.Q. Duane above I’ve spoken before, and sure she would be an ally to you. She’s kind of like an ex-feminist, and very very forward thinking.

    I don’t promote other’s commercial products for free, but certainly do my best to help you personally in any way I can. I spend a lot of time promoting other bloggers, because I enjoy it, they are my friends and it helps us both. I was thinking of asking for guest submissions to my blog, if that’s of interest to you, it would be of interest to me.

    Pingbacks are when someone links to your blog, it’s a way you can link back to them, and share the SEO love so to speak. Like “friends” in SEO. My blog has around 500000 external incoming links, and I have now some authority on Google, so the pingbacks I sent you for your awards would have helped you with SEO on Google. Whilst not everyone is for awards I’ve found them a good way to promote both myself and others. So was a little surprised when you asked me to take you off the list, but everyone has to choose what’s right for themselves.

    There’s also an element of rudeness in not accepting pingbacks when someone’s taken the time to mention you, especially from well meaning other bloggers who’ve given you free Google juice..

    My blog does get very busy, and still have to produce content, and take care of my own life, so I don’t “get out” as much as I’d like. This doesn’t mean that I not friendly, just busy building empires same as you dude.

    Warm regards

    Don Charisma

    • navigator1965 January 3, 2014 at 9:41 am #

      Don,

      Thanks for taking the time to write so much information and educate me. Very much appreciated, believe me. I’ll enumerate to help keep things clear in my mind:

      1. Am familiar with Baroness Thatcher. She was right about the battle for women’s rights being largely won. There’s a reason why the battle hasn’t stopped, however, and I am confident I can explain why this is so.
      2. Really glad that I stumbled across K.Q. Duane. Her comment on my “About” shows that she and I have suffered similarly at the hands of feminists and feminism. No doubt: she is an ally.
      3. I’d be honoured to do a guest submission for your blog. Thank you.
      4. I now understand what pingbacks are. I always approved them, but didn’t understand that it was merely a hyperlink to another’s blog post. I broke into blogging via OM’s Project O, and got so busy so quickly that I’ve never really had the time to learn Worpress properly from the technical side. Treading water a bit.
      5. It was only during the holidays that I figured out that SEO = Search Engine Optimization. This concept I understand, but have no knowledge of its quantum mechanics. Much appreciate the knowledge here.
      6. Awards. Didn’t have a clue about this when I started back in September, as I recall. Just noticed that some had them, and some said “no, thank you.” When I was so honoured in this regard before XMAS, I found that I was almost too busy keeping up with the WordPress email alerts to action the awards. I work full time, and have a full time relationship too. Plus there is my WordPress technical ineptness. So I decided to stop accepting awards (just before yours) as I couldn’t action them, but that I would try to process the ones I had already received over the holidays. I still can’t figure out how to get the award image that Kimberly Saeed emailed into the image widget. I’ll have to rethink this.
      7. Understand that your busy and don’t “get out” much. I started out thinking I needed to build a platform for my books, but the priority has changed to maintaining the friendships that I have made here. The book is controversial enough that it will ultimately sell itself, although I will still have to work at this, obviously. I’m going to have to find a way to reduce my blogging workload starting next week, as I have to go back to work, and, more importantly, I will have to continue work on Book Two while reviewing Book One galley proofs and getting ready for its release.

      Really appreciate the time you took to write the comment. Cheers.

      • doncharisma January 3, 2014 at 10:29 am #

        OK dude, thanks for lengthy reply 🙂

        I’m confident I understand the reason myself also, but may not be able to express it as well as you, which is why I tend to stay out of it. So interesting to hear what you have to say.

        I think you’ve covered everything else. I can usually help with technical issues.

        Re guest blogs, now that I have your go ahead, what I propose will be a title that I’ll announce on my blog, and you can write 🙂 So a surprise, yay ! 🙂

        Warm regards

        DC

  2. navigator1965 January 3, 2014 at 12:12 pm #

    Works for me, kind Sir.

  3. navigator1965 January 3, 2014 at 2:49 pm #

    Thank you, K.Q. And I, yours.

    • Cinzia La Strega March 1, 2014 at 5:16 pm #

      If I believed in an after life, I would say that there should be a special circle in hell reserved for a parent who alienates a child from his other parent. Not sure that this is part of “matriarchy” exactly, but whichever parent winds up with custody (usually the mother) has a lot of power over the child’s mind, and this power is too often abused out of bitterness and resentment toward the ex-spouse. The effects are devastating and can persist for decades. Sometimes, with patience and effort and keeping one’s heart open, it can be overcome — at least partly — over time. I hope you live to be vindicated in your daughter’s eyes.

      • navigator1965 March 1, 2014 at 5:55 pm #

        Cinzia, Thanks so much for your kind and supportive comment. It is very much appreciated, and we are in agreement on the evil nature of alienation, which can be perpetrated by a parent of either gender.

        I had a quick peek at your place, and I think I have a very rough gage of your take on gender politics. I am a bit of a heretic on this subject, but a civil and rational one. No foaming at the mouth or disrespect for people here. You might find my forthcoming book to be of interest, in that I will attempt to challenge the common perception of feminism as a benevolent social movement. (Not trying to bag a sale; manuscript is free is you’re ever interested themirrorbooks@gmail.com)

        I had Ontario, Canada feminist child “protection” social workers (whom I had contacted), feminist lawyers, and feminist judges (i.e., the Matriarchy) aid and abet the alienation of my three children from me, even after one of Canada’s foremost clinical authorities confirmed it in a neutral, court-appointed parenting capacity assessment. My analysis of feminism as a social phenomenon revealed that, at its core, it is a gender narcissistic phenomenon, or a subset of what the late Christopher Lasch wrote about in his modern classic “The Culture of Narcissism.”

        The test reader feedback I’ve received to date is encouraging. If you’re ever interested, feel free to fire me an email.

        Cheers.

  4. tasullvan January 4, 2014 at 4:23 pm #

    interesting we found one another …I have a similar story from a child’s perspective. My father passed away after not seeing each other for over 20 years. Cyclical in nature, the parent and child relationship is the most interesting one to date.We are all damaged in some way, it’s what we do with it that matters most. I look forward to reading more of your pages as my perpective on life changes by the minute. 🙂

    • navigator1965 January 4, 2014 at 10:50 pm #

      TA,

      Thanks for stopping by. Yes, we can choose to accept the past and have the courage to overcome it, although in some cases (narcissism, borderline, etc.) the damage runs very deep indeed. I look forward to hearing your story someday, if that’s okay with you.

      Please let me know if you ever get bored and are in need of something to read, and I’ll fire you a copy of the book. No strings, no worries if you’re not interested. themirrorbooks@gmail.com.

      Don’t be a stranger. Cheers

  5. irenedesign2011 January 5, 2014 at 2:42 am #

    An Award for you, check out the link: http://irenedesign2011.com/2014/01/05/more-awards-thank-you-don-charisma/
    Irene

  6. irenedesign2011 January 5, 2014 at 4:31 am #

    One more Award for you, check out the link http://irenedesign2011.com/2014/01/05/all-6-stars-in-the-blog-of-the-year-2013-thanks-don-charisma/
    Irene

  7. navigator1965 January 5, 2014 at 10:14 am #

    }:-))>

  8. sistasertraline January 7, 2014 at 5:24 pm #

    Hello lovely, you are being given the Sunshine Award, whether you like it or not!

    I don’t mind if you don’t want to pass it on, but would love to know your answers, so please ping any back to me! x
    http://sistasertraline.wordpress.com/2014/01/07/here-comes-the-sun/

    • navigator1965 January 7, 2014 at 5:49 pm #

      Hello, oh maker of Keanu desire! (I read.) Will answer and pingback, now that I have figured out what a pingback is.

  9. Bradley Bipolarbear January 9, 2014 at 10:48 pm #

    Hi Nav,

    I did a stupid thing. I moved my blog to a new URL and forgot to notify readers. Total now following = 0

    I’m now at http://www.depressionandbipolardisorder,com

    Hope to see you back.

    Bradley (formerly known as “How Is Bradley”

  10. SHIRLEY MAYA TAN January 11, 2014 at 9:39 am #

    I am very sad to learn about your story and plight. I have a slightly different situation from yours. I am a single mother who has immense challenge in getting my daughter “reconcile” with her father. Since our divorce, she has just grown distant from him. However, the light at the end of the tunnel recently, is that they do communicate with one another via mobile texts or facebook messaging. Yes, it is so sad. But this is really considered progress. Here’s hoping that my daughter will make the effort and go out for a meal with her dad in 2014.
    I know 4 years is a long time. But please, never ever give up hoping and doing something worthwhile because it is worth all the wait, pain and effort.
    My daughter has had a few bad experiences with her dad and it stuck with her. So, I advised her father to give her time and space but never to stop showing how much he cares for her. I am certain, one day, her heart will be touched. I live in HOPE.
    The very best of luck to you and may 2014 truly bring you fulfillment and blessed joy 🙂

    • navigator1965 January 11, 2014 at 3:03 pm #

      Hi Shirley,

      Thanks so much for your kind words and sharing your story with me. I do hope things go well with your daughter and ex-husband. I do think 2014 is going to be a significant year for me, especially with my first book coming out next month (hopefully). This may be the catalyst for my daughter to better understand what actually occurred in terms of her mother manipulating her to reject me.

  11. irenedesign2011 January 11, 2014 at 5:12 pm #

    You just got a new follower.
    Irene

  12. navigator1965 January 11, 2014 at 5:41 pm #

    Thanks, Irene. Welcome to The Mirror.

  13. Gede Prama January 22, 2014 at 2:39 am #

    Thank you for sharing this article quite interesting and, hopefully true happiness rays began to warm our hearts, when we can share it with sincerity. Greetings from Gede Prama 🙂

  14. navigator1965 January 22, 2014 at 6:12 am #

    Thank you for your kind words, Gede.

  15. Just Patty January 22, 2014 at 10:14 am #

    Hey Michael,
    I read in the comments of Suz’s blog that you and I are having our first book being published this year, so I thought I would hop over to check out your blog! 🙂
    Quite a story you have, must be very hard for you. I really hope things will be looking up for you in the future!
    Lots of love
    Patty

    • navigator1965 January 22, 2014 at 8:02 pm #

      Hi Patty,

      Kind comments and especially the love is most appreciated. Nice of you to drop by. Hopefully we’ll both have great fortune with our books this year.

    • navigator1965 January 29, 2014 at 9:08 pm #

      Hi Patty,

      Really appreciate this – thank you. ❤ I'm in a fairly good place, but it's been a rough road for a long time. Suz is a dear, isn't she?

      My book was written – even engineered – to expose what was done to the kids and me. I suspect it will not go unnoticed.

      Cheers.

  16. D.E. Cantor January 29, 2014 at 6:45 pm #

    My heart cries for your situation with your daughter. I recently met a guy who had a similar experience, and he told me how he can’t move from L.A. because he wants to be in the same place in case if his daughter tries to find him after she turns 18.

    • navigator1965 January 29, 2014 at 9:14 pm #

      Thanks, D.E.

      I feel for that guy. Research by NYC’s Dr. Amy Baker, Ph.D., reveals that the average time to reunification with an alienated child is 20 years. Often they are so psychologically damaged that the adult child that comes back to you is someone that you don’t want in your life (my expert A/Prof of psychiatry testified to this at my divorce trial. 40+ years of experience with alienation.) 5% of the kids are so badly cult programmed/alienated that they never reunify with the target parent.

      This is why, in part, I have written my soon to be published book. Our family “justice” systems exacerbate, support, and air and abet parental alienation.

      Why this is so will have to await my book’s sequel.

  17. irenedesign2011 February 1, 2014 at 2:16 pm #

    An Award for you, check it out at: http://irenedesign2011.com/2014/02/01/the-sunshine-award/
    Irene

    • navigator1965 February 5, 2014 at 6:08 am #

      Hi Irene,

      Apology for the delay in responding. I tend to be very slow in processing these. Thanks so much for the honour.

      Cheers.

  18. suzjones February 5, 2014 at 2:59 am #

    Putting a little Sunshine in your life with the Sunshine Award. Details in my post
    http://suzjones.wordpress.com/2014/02/05/sunshine-on-a-rainy-day/
    Bless you my friend.

  19. mollytopia February 6, 2014 at 8:49 pm #

    This is something I have never heard of. I’m so sorry to hear that exists, and that it happened to you. No parent deserves that. Wishing you lots of happy times with your sons and hope for a future with your daughter.

    • navigator1965 February 6, 2014 at 8:56 pm #

      Thanks for your kind words of support, Molly. I’m in a good place after five and half years, all things considered. Blogging has certainly helped, and the first of two books about it – big catharsis – should be out in a month or two (self-published). I’m hoping the book might eventually prove to be the catalyst for reunion with my daughter. I’m getting very positive test reader feedback, and there’s no lack of scandal.

      Speaking of which, if you’re ever bored and in need of a read, please fire me an email at themirrorbooks@gmail.com. Reports are that it is a gripping read. No worries if you’re not interested or too busy.

      Cheers.

      • mollytopia February 6, 2014 at 9:41 pm #

        I’m totally interested in reading it. It’s good to hear you’re in a good place now. My fingers are crossed for you that the book results in a reunion : )

        • navigator1965 February 6, 2014 at 10:06 pm #

          Just found your email at your *about* page. Two emails coming your way shortly, with my thanks for your kind interest.

          Cheers.

        • mollytopia February 6, 2014 at 10:12 pm #

          Awesome – thanks!

        • navigator1965 February 6, 2014 at 10:23 pm #

          My pleasure.

  20. dharmainitiative February 7, 2014 at 11:20 pm #

    Just saw your About page, and thank you for sharing your story. My father is a victim as well, but unfortunately, he didn’t attempt to save his relationship with his two children with the same admirable effort you did. And that had a devastating effect on both of us. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve seen my half brother or sister. I’m still in the process of letting the bitterness go and rebuilding those relationships. It’s extremely difficult, and painful, but I agree that it’s worth it.
    I really look forward to your book.

    • navigator1965 February 8, 2014 at 8:02 am #

      I am so sorry that you had to experience this as a child. It’s cruel enough being a target parent. But a child?

      A father giving up isn’t necessarily a sign that he didn’t love you. Some men don’t understand that the ex-wife has poisoned the kids, and think they are rejecting him on their own. Some haven’t a clue what to do about it, and are helpless (there are more books and websites about it now). Some know how biased the system is, and face the sad fact that they can’t hope to win.

      If you’d rather not wait, please fire me an email at themirrorbooks@gmail.com and I’ll send you the galley proof .pdf. Hope you can feel the love right now.

    • navigator1965 February 8, 2014 at 8:08 am #

      Forgot to talk about the bitterness and letting go. It is a difficult process, but an essential one. I found writing the book to be very helpful, as it allowed me to recognize the anger I had repressed. Each end-to-end edit saw me acknowledge a layer of anger and work it out. The blogging has been tremendously helpful too.

  21. simplyilka March 1, 2014 at 1:31 pm #

    Hi Nav! Your turn! I have nominated you for 3 Awards, because I think you have a great imagination and your blog is truly creative and special. I hope you will accept! Congratulations and here is the link:
    http://simplyilka.com/2014/03/01/imagine-there-is-lots-of-sunshine-to-shine-on-more-awards/

    • navigator1965 March 1, 2014 at 1:39 pm #

      So thoughtful of you, Ilka. Thank you, especially such kind words about the blog. I accept, but you must bear with me, as I am notoriously slow in processing these things.

      • simplyilka March 1, 2014 at 1:42 pm #

        Take your time! Between us, these awards were given to me last December 😉

        • navigator1965 March 1, 2014 at 3:23 pm #

          I won’t tell if you won’t. };-)>

  22. Opinionated Man March 7, 2014 at 4:24 pm #

    I am here to steal your scotch! [poof]

    • navigator1965 March 7, 2014 at 4:32 pm #

      Well, it just so happens that I have a 12 yr old Macallan AND a nice purple bottle of Ultimat vodka (best I’ve found), which mysteriously followed me back from Arizona.

      Since the prickly pear margaritas appear to have caused a little weight gain, I am sadly on the imbibing-restricted weight loss program.

      Might as well come over and have some, as I can’t for the next week or two.

  23. Ashley March 17, 2014 at 2:33 pm #

    I’m glad to have “met” you through Hook. It is mighty brave of you to write so honestly, and I look forward to reading more from you.

    • navigator1965 March 17, 2014 at 2:50 pm #

      Thanks for your kind words, Ashley. It’s a privilege to have you here. I think you might enjoy my forthcoming book, which I’d be glad to send you a complimentary e-copy of once it gets to a respectable state. (Currently having the final galley proof corrections being done.) I’ll fire you a short email with the test reader feedback, so you can gauge it for yourself.

      Looking forward to reading more of your material, as well. Cheers.

  24. Trent Lewin March 29, 2014 at 12:31 am #

    That is a hell of a story, and I’m sorry to hear about the pain in your family. I hope it resolves itself and that you have contact again with the one child that is still away from you.

    • navigator1965 March 29, 2014 at 8:03 am #

      Hi Trent,

      Thanks so much for your kind thoughts and words. It’s been seven years since it started in earnest, and I am well past the worst. Sadly, my daughter is certain to be at least the 4th female narcissist in her maternal lineage. As the expert psychiatrist in my divorce case testified, sometimes the child who eventually comes back to you later as an adult is the sort of person that you don’t want in your life. Narcissists are not nice people.

      I’ve just gotten the corrected galley proof .pdf for my book back from my self publisher. It’s about my experience, especially getting shafted by our feminist child “protection” and family “justice” systems. Getting rave reviews from test readers. Fire me an email at themirrorbooks@gmail.com if you’re interested in having a complimentary, pre-release read, no strings attached. No worries if you’re too busy or not interested.

      • Trent Lewin March 30, 2014 at 1:30 pm #

        Would love to read it – I’m phenomenally time-limited at the moment, but it sounds interesting, and I would love to read it. Will send an e-mail shortly.

        Are you Canadian, by the way?

        • navigator1965 March 30, 2014 at 1:36 pm #

          Hi, Trent. Got the email and will send the e-book (galley proof) shortly. Yes, I am Canadian. No worries about being time-limited. Read on your own time, whenever.

  25. sweetlittlenetwork April 3, 2014 at 7:40 pm #

    Thank you for sharing and sorry you went through this. I some what understand, as my brother is experiencing the same.

  26. Ralph April 4, 2014 at 8:08 pm #

    Hi Michael 😀 Wow. Read the book, seen the film. Your story has opened old wounds. I have not seen my two daughters for 24 years and no contact except for two recent hate emails. One asked for money in a really nasty way and the second spreading rumours in England (where I used to live. I have been in Spain for 12 years and never been back to England), spreading rumours that I had just beaten up a female realtor/estate agent in England. I immediately contacted the UK police and they checked finding I am not wanted on the local or national database. Why the, now, 40 year old women do it is beyond my comprehension. So I cut ties with them totally for my own sanity. If I was a nasty person I could understand their hate, but I am the complete opposite and totally confused in their reasoning. I hope your situation is resolved amicably. Ralph

    • navigator1965 April 4, 2014 at 11:09 pm #

      Ralph,

      Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your story. It’s a hard Foreign Legion that we belong to, sadly. I might be able to offer you some insight into your case, and I suspect that my forthcoming book would be of service and of interest in this regard.

      Please have a look at this post, and see if you’re interested in having a read: https://navigator1965.wordpress.com/2014/03/31/how-to-write-the-book-that-malcolm-gladwell-wished-he-had-written/comment-page-1/#comment-2073

      If so, feel free to email me at themirrorbooks@gmail.com and I’ll email you a .pdf copy. Sounds as if you you had a narcissistic ex-wife who alienated your daughters from you. Since narcissism is intergenerational, I fear your daughters are narcissists, as certainly is mine.

      Old wounds, indeed. Do take care, and don’t be a stranger.

      • Ralph April 5, 2014 at 7:05 am #

        Thanks for your long reply Michael. I won’t come back to your blog as I moved on years ago and those two emails were just a glitch in my life in Spain. I have lovely friends here of all nationalities and also my blogging friends, one of which came from UK and stayed with me for a while. Why should I try with my girls ? They know I am leaving my lovely apartment and healthy bank balance to them (which is only right). Their response was “I hope you die soon !”. They have made their bed so they have to sleep with their thoughts and words. I have moved on with no guilt of the past or bitterness towards them. I am not going to analyse anything or get trapped in a circle of “why are they like that to me ?”
        So, Michael, thanks for the opportunity of me having my say and I wish you well. Have a great weekend. Ralph

        • navigator1965 April 5, 2014 at 7:33 am #

          It’s wonderful that you’ve reached a good place in life, Ralph, in so many regards. I’m glad for you. Thanks for stopping by, and best of luck.

        • Ralph April 5, 2014 at 9:18 am #

          That’s really kind of you to say that Michael. I do hope that you will find a “good place” one day. Ralph

        • navigator1965 April 5, 2014 at 9:22 am #

          I’m actually at a reasonably good place, Ralph. The book has been a remarkably therapeutic endeavour, especially so since I will be exposing an ideologically corrupt feminist family “justice” system.

          Cheers.

        • Ralph April 5, 2014 at 9:27 am #

          Great news Michael 😀

  27. Nadia April 10, 2014 at 6:34 am #

    I’m sorry to hear about your painful ordeal. I hope this journey leads to healing and peace for you, and that you can hopefully one day reunite with your daughter.

    • navigator1965 April 10, 2014 at 1:22 pm #

      Thank you, Nadia. Writing the book and blogging have been enormously therapeutic for me. I do hope that I will reunite with “Hillary” (can’t use her real name, for legal reasons) some day. Sadly, narcissism is intergenerational. As the expert psychiatrist who was involved in my case testified, sometimes the children who come back to you as adults aren’t the sort of people you want in your life.

      This is why it is so important to intervene properly in cases of parental alienation as soon as possible, and why cases like mine are such tragedies. Much of it could have been prevented, had our society respected the Rule of Law and basic human rights instead of blindly following feminist ideology.

  28. Makenzy Kaye April 24, 2014 at 5:37 pm #

    As a child having been in the situation of having my mother attempt to persuade me against my father, I somewhat know how the situation can be from another side of the situation. I was lucky enough to have family and friends at a young age that helped me to see through it and love both my parents even though they are flawed in more ways than one! Looking forward to being a follower of yours.

    • navigator1965 April 24, 2014 at 6:54 pm #

      M.K., My admiration continues to grow. You were indeed fortunate to have the family and friends to help you keep a proper perspective. It is wonderful that you could come out the other side with such a healthy, mature, and balanced perspective. See your parents for who they really are, warts and all, and still love them unconditionally. Absolutely fantastic.

      Have a look at this post, especially the test reader comments: https://navigator1965.wordpress.com/2014/03/31/how-to-write-the-book-that-malcolm-gladwell-wished-he-had-written/ . I think you might really like the book, as it deals with alienation and gives insight into how a mother’s narcissistic mind can work. If you’re ever interested, drop me an email at themirrorbooks@gmail.com, and I’ll send you a .pdf copy of the galley proof. No strings attached, no deadlines, no obligations, no worries if it isn’t your cup of tea, etc. Open offer.

      Glad to have you aboard. Cheers.

  29. The Reading Girl April 30, 2014 at 6:48 pm #

    thank you for visiting my blog 🙂 I can’t wait for your posts

    • navigator1965 April 30, 2014 at 7:05 pm #

      My pleasure, TRG. Thanks for your kind follow, in return. Don’t forget to fire me an email if you’re ever interested in having a read of the book.

      • The Reading Girl April 30, 2014 at 7:08 pm #

        Yes :). I have been so busy I barely get to review book. I want to read when I have time so it doesn’t feel like I am obligated to do it. But I am very interested in your book.

        Warm Regards, Yazmin

        • navigator1965 April 30, 2014 at 7:24 pm #

          That’s wonderful, Yazmin. No worries about when, just let me know when you’re ready and feel like having a read. Oh, I just came back from leaving a comment at your blog, but it is superseded by the comments here.

          Take care, Nav

        • The Reading Girl April 30, 2014 at 7:25 pm #

          just answered you 🙂

  30. KG May 1, 2014 at 10:26 am #

    Hey Nav, here is my award for ‘I am not freshly pressed award’ to you and your interesting site.
    http://booksmusicandmovies.wordpress.com/2014/05/01/i-am-not-freshly-pressed/

    Thanks & Cheers
    KG

    • navigator1965 May 1, 2014 at 2:06 pm #

      You’re an angel, KG. Thank you for this honour. ❤

  31. The Reading Girl May 1, 2014 at 8:38 pm #

    Hello,

    I just started following you so I do not know if you have done this before. But I think you would do an awesome job.

    I would like to nominate you to participate in a Writing Process Blog Meme.

    If you accept my nomination, you will need to write an article prompted by the following four questions and post it on your blog on Monday, May 12, 2014. You’ll also nominate three writers of your choice to post their articles on their blogs on May 19, 2014. The four questions:

    What am I working on at the moment?
    How does my work differ from others of its genre?
    Why do I write what I do?
    How does my writing process work?

    I’d be honored if you would accept this nomination. Please let me know ASAP so that I can feature your blog in my post on May 5th,2014.

    I will use some info from your About Me Profile information to let my viewers know more about you, if you don’t mind. Or, if you would like me to say something different you could let me know?

    Thanks Nav! I hope you decide to try this. Even though I just started following I have enjoyed what little I have read.

    Yazmin

    • navigator1965 May 2, 2014 at 7:08 am #

      Thanks for this honour, Yazmin. I’d love to do this, and therefore I accept the nomination. I should be able to come up with three writer nominations, and will have my post ready for 12 May.

      As for my About Me Profile, I would add that:
      – I am about to retire from the Royal Canadian Air Force after nearly 31 years of service.
      – I am an active blogger who very much enjoys this writing-based form of social media.
      – Despite some non-trivial adversity in my personal life, my sense of humour remains intact. My writing tends to have an element of humour that creeps in, now and again.

      Also, thanks for your kind words about my writing.

      • The Reading Girl May 2, 2014 at 5:52 pm #

        all right 🙂 thank you :D. and your welcome. I’ll do it.

  32. mommyx4boys May 16, 2014 at 10:55 pm #

    Im so sorry that this happened to you, and I know how awful it is to be put in that situation, due to someone else’s selfishness. Its heartbreaking.

    • navigator1965 May 17, 2014 at 5:09 am #

      Thank you, mx4b. I’ve learned to deal with it, and writing the book was very therapeutic. Maybe it was meant to happen for a reason. That book is a powerful one.

  33. mommyx4boys June 2, 2014 at 11:05 pm #

    I wrote a post called all men are not the same, and would love to get your opinion on it.

    • navigator1965 June 2, 2014 at 11:10 pm #

      I’ll go have a quick look.

      • mommyx4boys June 2, 2014 at 11:11 pm #

        Great thanks. 🙂

        • navigator1965 June 2, 2014 at 11:29 pm #

          My pleasure. It was a good post with a rational argument. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.

  34. 20/20 Hines Sight June 18, 2014 at 9:14 pm #

    Thanks for stopping by and following my blog. I’m actually thinking of taking a short trip to Ontario, if so I just might ask you some places to visit off the tourist path.

    Anyway, it never ceases to amaze me how vicious people can be and at the expense of those without a voice. So many families and lives have been ruined because of injustices disguised as justice. I’m glad you were able to restore the relationship with your sons and hopefully your daughter will come around.

    • navigator1965 June 18, 2014 at 9:25 pm #

      Thank you, 20/20. I actually have a rational explanation as to why the feminists were so vicious to my kids and me. My daughter is a linger term project, but one I won’t give up on.

      Let me know if you ever do decide to take a trip to Ontario. I’ll canvass my circle of contacts to come up with some suggestions, if you’re interested.

      • 20/20 Hines Sight June 18, 2014 at 9:49 pm #

        Awesome! Thanks. The only thing I know I want to do for sure is the CN Tower edge walk. Not sure why since I’m afraid of heights. I call it aversion therapy.

        Is this theory in the book?

        • navigator1965 June 18, 2014 at 9:56 pm #

          The basis for the theory is in the book, and I’ll expand upon it I the sequel.

          CN Tower is a good choice. Distillery District in Toronto is also a nice, refurbished trendy shopping/cultural area. Some good museums, too.

  35. Swiss-Ami-Mom June 21, 2014 at 11:33 am #

    It is a pleasure to have met you “Michael”. We have more in common than I ever would have thought. Cheers to a beautiful new day today 🙂

    • navigator1965 June 21, 2014 at 9:31 pm #

      It is a beautiful, new day. Thank you, S.A.M. The pleasure is all mine.

  36. Julie July 22, 2014 at 10:47 am #

    Hello Michael, I am sorry to learn the circumstances of your relationship with your daughter. I tried very hard to not belittle or degrading about the ex when my children were around. He was and probably still is, a real piece of work. I knew that eventually, one day, they would see that for themselves, I didn’t need to jam it down their throats. Nor did/do I ever want them to look at me with distain that could result from me acting like a jerk about their dad. I thought my battle was expensive, you really got it! Perhaps one day your daughter will realize and reunite??

    I hope you don’t mind, but I believe I will have a look around. Have I been here before?? your name is familiar…

    • navigator1965 July 22, 2014 at 6:13 pm #

      Thank you, Julie. The research indicates that the average time to reunion for an adult child who was alienated is approximately 20 years. In such case, I have 14 more to wait. There is a 5% chance that my daughter will never return to me. There is also the possibility that I will have passed away before her programming comes undone enough for her to seek me out. It’s supposed to be a gradual process of awareness or re-awakening.

      However, the adult child that comes back to you often is, by this point, not a pleasant person, given the permanent emotional harm done to them. Narcissism is intergenerational, for example.

      Please, look around. There’s also http://www.michaelmcconaughey.com regarding my new book about my experiences (1st of two). If this interests you but money is tight, fire me an email at themirrorbooks@gmail.com and I’ll fix you up with a complimentary e-copy.

      You did right by your kids–good for you. It’s heartening to see parents putting their kids’ best interests first, even in difficult circumstances.

  37. SJ August 19, 2014 at 3:40 pm #

    It’s sad that the courts are slow to recognize this form of abuse (at least in my situation). Hopefully with greater awareness and with us pressing the media to cover the issue, there will be less people devastated by it’s effects.

    • navigator1965 August 19, 2014 at 10:00 pm #

      It is sad. Hopefully, my book about this will gain some traction and result in positive change. It is devastating on the target parents, and even worse for kids.

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