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Woody Allen v. Mia Farrow

8 Feb
Woody Allen, photo by Colin Swan, wikipedia

Woody Allen, photo by Colin Swan, wikipedia

As a general rule, the lives of celebrities do not interest me in the slightest. The current and very public controversy surrounding Woody Allen, however, strikes a little close to home for me to ignore. My thoughts on this are with reference to the excellent article in today’s National Post by Jonathan Kay.

Allen’s 28 year old daughter Dylan Farrow has publicly accused Allen of sexually abusing her as a child. A heinous act for certain, if true. But as Mr. Kay astutely implies, it almost certainly isn’t. Dylan’s older brother Moses is the key to seeing through the smoke screen here.

Mia Farrow, photo by David Shankbone, wikipedia.org

Mia Farrow, photo by David Shankbone, wikipedia.org

As Moses relates, it was his mother Mia who drummed into him and sister Dylan to hate their father for tearing the family apart and for sexually molesting his sister. It was Mia who created the atmosphere of fear and hatred towards their father.

While Kay doesn’t use this term specifically, what he is describing is the ruthless and brutal emotional form of child abuse known as parental alienation. I’ve lived through it.

Dr. Sol Goldstein, a prince of a man

Dr. Sol Goldstein, a prince of a man

The clinical expert in my case who conducted a neutral, court-appointed parenting capacity assessment was Toronto’s Dr. Sol Goldstein. Dr. Goldstein had four decades of experience in this field at the time. He was a child psychiatrist, and adult psychiatrist, an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Toronto, and a psychoanalyst. He studied psychoanalysis under no less an authority than Dr. Otto Kernberg, a giant in the field of narcissism theory. Dr. Goldstein had stopped counting his high conflict divorce cases after he got to 500, well before he saw my family.

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At a later stage in my case, Dr. Goldstein warned me of the possibility that the parental alienation could expand to include false allegations of sexual abuse of my severely alienated daughter. Apparently it’s par for the course in severe enough cases. Thankfully, this did not come to pass. My life was hellish enough at the time without such false accusations.

As Jonathan Kay points out, the high-minded presumption of innocence can go out the window in cases of alleged pedophilia. While we need to protect our children, doing so at the expense of justice opens the door to a narcissistic and vindictive ex to brainwash the kids into thinking one has committed heinous acts.

There but for the grace of God go I. And I, like Mr. Kay, believe I know what the truth of the matter is when it comes to the allegation made against Mr. Allen.

Dr. Amy Baker, Ph.D. – Parental Alienation Expert

2 Sep

Due to my military background, I was quick to get “SA” (situational awareness) once I learned that my estranged wife’s rabid campaign to have our kids reject me had a name: parental alienation. As it turns out, there is a cadre of world-class experts in the field, and they pretty much all know one another.

One of these experts is Dr. Amy Baker, Ph.D. Amy came to Ontario, Canada in 2009 to testify as an expert at my divorce trial. She was accepted by the court as an expert in child-parent relationships and parental alienation. Amy’s testimony was exceptionally strong, in that her evidence explained how parental alienation was child abuse. She used language and terms that were virtually identical to Ontario’s child protection law.

This is probably why the judge had to scuttle the trial. She threatened me from chambers with not seeing my two badly alienated sons for another six months if I didn’t drop the trial. I hadn’t seen them for nearly 14 months by that point, also because of judicial malfeasance.

Amy is very intelligent, compassionate, and a killer-good expert witness. She’s someone that every target (victim) parent of alienation, every lawyer dealing with alienation cases, and adults who suspect they may have been alienated as kids should know about.

Here’s where you can find her: http://www.amyjlbaker.com/ . She responds to emails.

It’s people like Amy that help alienated parents regain faith in humanity and have hope for an otherwise bleak future.